Hi Saul,

I see that I have been on your mind. Imagine you letting me live rent-free in your head. So you wanted attention…. Sure here you go!

Honey bear… I’m not sure what white-centered, hetero-normative form your personal relationship takes…but I will be damned if I will let you make any similar demands of my person or my marriage. …

Alderperson Fiske, I must start by offering you my sincerest apologies. Apparently, all the times that I've shown up at City Council I have not paid you enough individual attention. Imagine my gall to show up at City Council in an “ugly manner”, forgetting my “civility” and “aggressively” quibbling over such trivialities like racism in our town. But fear not….. all the Alderfolks who avoid the overtly racist language of your fallen comrade, Alderperson Rainey, yet use coded language and enthusiastically vote for council actions with racist impacts, your time in the spotlight will soon come…. …

People have been on the streets for the last week nonstop screaming, “STOP KILLING BLACK PEOPLE,” and all this air time and written word dedicated to a cop that kneels is the equivalent of the media sending us the message of “Not All Cops!” JUST STOP! Please stop sharing the articles featuring cops taking a knee, marching with protestors, or hugging a protestor. Quite frankly, we should all be appalled that it is newsworthy that a few cops show signs of having a conscience in the middle of all of this collective grief! I have heartstrings too… I’m not a…

“At Our Institution, We Welcome Diversity.”

If you hear those words while considering joining an organization or workplace: RUN! For a member of a marginalized community, this is a trap of epic proportions that will mess with your mind and heart like a real-life game of Get Out.

The concept that a group or organization can simply “be open to” or “welcome diversity” and everyone will come together and sing Kumbaya into the sunset, is catastrophically harmful, and yet the practice is so ubiquitous. We have all been privy to conversations at work or on committees focused on “increasing the diversity on the team.” As someone…

LGBTQ+ issues are hot button issues. Anti-Vaxxing discussions will end a playdate before the first cheerio hits the floor. So when I combine these two issues to create an analogy, I expect that a volcano will erupt, but I like to live on the wild side, so here goes. Refusing to educate your kids on LGBTQ+ basics is to suicide rates, what anti-vaxxing is to infection rates. It is harmful to epidemic proportions.

Just as a parent refusing to get a child vaccinated endangers other children in their community, parents who refuse to educate their children on LGBTQ+ basics, (pronouns…

If I had a penny for every time I heard, “We moved to Evanston for the Diversity” I’d be sitting on a beach in Fiji permanently. But to be fully upfront, it’s why I moved my multi-racial family here too. We all fell for the utopian myth of the diversity of “Hevanston.” Except, for families of color, the reality does not meet the promise in quite the same way, if at all. While black families quickly pick up this fact in measurable inequities once our kids enter school and we learn about the opportunity gap, (notice I didn’t say performance…

A few days ago, my Facebook timeline was abuzz with an Op-ed from the NY Times by Loretta Ross entitled; I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” I scrolled passed it on several occasions, knowing that I had to be in a darn near saintly frame of mind to handle that kind of Uncle Tom foolery. I saw clearly what the NY Times was trying to do with that title. They were purposely masquerading the errant Black voice to help assuage the ruffled feathers of well-intentioned white liberals. I wanted no part of that dog and pony…

There is no denying that this country is strung collectively tight. Marginalized people have had an extra-large orange boot stepping on their backs, and they are rightfully angry. Immigrants, African Americans, people with disabilities, women, Muslims, and Indigenous people speak out in frustration and the Right, wavering center and the oh-so-woke but not really Left, are all muting, ignoring, or tone policing their anger respectively. We are at war. …

How to Check Your Racist Uncle Over the Holidays

It’s Thanksgiving again and that means it’s time to put all your “woke” white folk, self-congratulating accolades into to practice. It’s simply not enough to re-tweet videos of injustice against people of color and lament to your friends how wrong it all is. This holiday put your mouth where your online activism is, and start close to home. With family members, it’s extra tricky. No one wants to be that girl who ruins the holiday meal for everyone. And even if you are on the right side of justice, no one is likely to see it that way if dinner…

So it’s Halloween again and 5-year-old Becky wants to be Moana and 4-year-old Preston can’t wait to play Black Panther, and even my most “woke” friends can’t seem to wrap their minds around why this is an issue. Moms who pride themselves on being white allies can’t get behind the idea that they are being asked to deny their precious little angels the pure joy of celebrating Halloween as their favorite princess or superhero. After all, 5-year-old Peyton has no mal-intent and is not trying to offend anyone’s culture, so what’s the harm?

Here in lies the enormous fallacy at…

Karla Thomas

Karla Thomas is an Anti-Racist & Equity Consultant & Trainer, Writer, Activist & Entrepreneur. Sprint2Equity.com

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store